In her first sit-down with Genius, Selena Gomez is opening up about relationships and decoding the lyrics to her latest single, Rare.

 

Selena revealed that on most days, she feels like ‘she’ll never be in a romantic relationship ever again.  She spoke about her own personal experiences when it comes to relationships:

 

“This isn’t the end-all-be-all, I’m still a baby.  I got a lot to figure out and… but I do know, I believe. Some days, when I wake up and I’m annoyed and I’m like, ‘I’m gonna be alone forever.’ But after that 15 minutes goes away, I say to myself, ‘I know that there’s someone for everybody.’  I’ve heard and I’ve experienced and whatnot, I think men and women do it — especially teenagers and young people in love — is the satisfaction out of hurting someone because you know that they care.  I’ve had someone actually say that to me before. To keep that person down so they never realize, ‘Oh, I’m strong enough to actually get out of this situation.'”

 

 

 

Selena then broke down the meaning behind the lyric that’s included in Rare‘s bridge, “I’m not gonna beg for you / I’m not gonna let you make me cry / Not getting enough from you/ Didn’t you know I’m hard to find?” – she explains:

 

“In certain relationships, I’ve heard and I’ve experienced… there’s this satisfaction out of hurting someone because you know that they care.  Purposefully putting someone down because you wanna keep them, you know, at that a level—I’ve had someone actually say that to me before—it’s like, to keep that person down so they never realize, like, ‘Oh, I’m strong enough to actually get out of this situation.'”

 

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On self-esteem issues and confidence, Selena shares:

 

“Self-esteem and confidence is a constant struggle for me.  It’s getting better with time and age but it will always be something that I’m working on. I think recently this is the most I’ve been vocal about, actually I deserve this and I have a right to claim this and I have a right to put out things that I want to put out and talk about things that I want to talk about.”

 

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And most importantly, the true meaning behind Rare – Selena tells Genius, “What I think is so important about this chorus is that it’s acknowledging, ‘Hey, I don’t have it all. I’m not saying I’m perfect, but I do know that I’m special.'”

 

 

 

In a February interview with Dazed, Selena touched on challenges that she’s faced in her past, challenges that have since made her stronger person:

 

“There are certain things which I wish hadn’t happened to me.  But without them, I wouldn’t have been the voice I am for people who have gone through the same thing.  Going through the lupus thing and the kidney transplant, I was dealing with fame and with being run-down, dealing with depression, anxiety and other mental health issues that I had.  It was all a bit confusing.  When ‘Lose You To Love Me’ came out, I stood back and had this moment, like, ‘Oh… this is a huge reason why I’ve pushed myself through this, ‘This is why.’  I was able to release a song that hopefully helps to heal some people, or just lets them know they are not alone. I was actually letting it go personally and when that happened something inside of me just left. And that’s why I am grateful for the chapters of my life.”

 

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